Everyone’s definition of Forgiveness is different. Forgiveness, what does it truly mean? Let me share my definition of Forgiveness,
“ Letting go the hurt yet not ignoring, but being prepared for the hurt that can potentially happen again; Not letting it change your attitude towards the person who hurt you. “
This is my definition, yes, it’s a whole bunch of words, needs serious cramming. Anyway, moving on, what then is the opposite of Forgiveness? The common word that comes to your minds immediately would be, if I’m not wrong, grudges.
What stops us from forgiving others?
In the disciple group teaching with Brother Joey, he drew a connection between the Love of God and Forgiveness. Imagine the power of God’s love in that one moment during the altar, and multiply it to the omni-presence of God. With God’s Love flowing in our spiritual bodies, through and to our spiritual heart, we will find it easy to love others too. However, when we hold a grudge towards those who hurt us, it creates a blockage in the ‘veins’ in which God’s love flows through.
We came to a conclusion that if we can’t Forgive, we Lack God’s love.
Why is this so?
Forgiveness is about letting go and giving at the same time.
Take a look at Matthew 18:21-35
- this is about the parable of the unforgiving slave.
The 27th verse of the chapter says that “The Master was moved with compassion and forgave the servant”. Note here that the servant owes too much that the Master had to write off his debt. Draw a parallel here to God as the Master, and Us as the Servant. We are sinners so much so that we can NEVER save ourselves. Yet God loved us so much, that he sent his son, Jesus Christ to come and save us, to WRITE OFF our debts.
At the start of the chapter, Peter asked Jesus, how many times should he forgive his brother, 7 times? But Jesus answer was 77 times. In the Old Testament, when we sin, we will face judgement. It says in the bible that GOD hates sin, and those who does sin. This can be shown in the example of Cain who bears the mark that if anyone harms him, that person will be given back 7 times what he inflicted on Cain. Later on in verses 23 and 24 of Genesis 4, Lamech confessed his sin(murder) and cried out that if Cain is avenged 7 times, may he be avenged 77 times.
So you can see that before Christ died for us, our only ‘fate’ was judgement; or vengeance. Yet after Christ came down, in the New Testament, we are not supposed to inflict judgement but instead, forgiveness. The Lord’s prayer is another source we look from and in it says “we can only hope God forgives us with how much we have forgiven others.”
In verse 35 of Matthew 18, “….forgive your brother from your heart”. This simply means that True forgiveness, is Forgiveness from the heart. It is your heart that determines your actions and decisions, whether or not to forgive and a whole lot more list of things.
What I have taken away from this discussion fellowship is that Forgiveness is practical. To forgive for the first few times, it’s definitely not easy, however, to practice forgiving others repeatedly will bring you to a whole new level whereby your hurts will not hurt anymore because the Love of God is flowing so strongly in your life that it becomes a joy. God’s love will overwrite the hurt inflicted.
So will you start forgiving today? I will, not matter how hard it is.
God bless you.